Do You Get Anxiety About Expressing Yourself or Hold Yourself Back ...Because of Other People's Judgement?

Millions of people hold themselves back in life and never really 'live' to their fullest potential. The inner critic they learned in the past defeats them daily...will it defeat you? 


Millions Hope That Positive Thinking And Meditation Will Be The Cure All...They Often Regret That Choice Long Term!

As you know, your mind can be a complex place. We have been duped for years thinking that positive thinking, meditation or reframes will overcome self doubt and anxiety...this is not true! Your mind is a computer, to change it you need to gain access to the user guide!

Are You Avoiding The Things You Want?

Do you ever feel like the world is passing by and you are not joining in?

Constant anxiety can drain your energy and feel like a weight around your neck. Do you ever feel overwhelmed with anxiety when thinking of your future?

  • Anxiety is a past projection!
  • Anxiety is distorting your memory!
  • The main core of anxiety is hidden!

Conflict or Challenges With Other People?

Do you find it difficult to communicate and get your point across?

Effective communication is essential in the world today. Do you feel you can get your message across with family, friend and work? If you feel you can't...

  • Past conflict creates patterns!
  • Situations today can trigger patterns!
  • We rarely get taught how to connect!

Constantly Doubt Your Decisions?

Confidence in our own decisions is essential if we want to move forwards in life. But what about the anxiety of "Have I made the right choice?"

Whether in the home, work or life we need that self assurance. Do you doubt yourself?

  • Manipulated or put down in the past?
  • Been around people who feel jealous?
  • A feedback loop of past mistakes?

"I grew massively working with Paul!"

Paul is great to work with - he is very knowledgeable, filled with compassion, cares hugely about his clients, but most importantly he is not afraid to tell you what you don’t want to hear but very much need to hear.

Working with Paul will challenge you and it will change you in ways that you didn’t know were possible. I grew massively while working with Paul, I would highly recommend working with him

Kirstin Marshall

"I want to get on track, but not sure how"

"I am feeling stuck!"

When the mind is in conflict with itself, it can often feel like life is going in circles. In may well be doing. If there are conflicting thoughts, your mind will be trying to walk left and right at the same time. 

"I am not taking action!"

To move forward in life you need to take action, but what about when action feels exhausting? This is your mind trying to hold you back as it is confused whether your anxiety is real or not. So it protects you!

"I keep meeting narcissists!"

In life we will meet a whole range of people and some of those people can be abusive. But why do we meet them? We actually attract people that match the beliefs we have about the world.

"I find it hard to connect!"

Connecting to other people can be hard for many, especially if we have been hurt in the past and it is the past that creates anxiety. If you notice the same patterns happening again...your past is unresolved!

"I get impostor syndrome!"

Imposter syndrome is where we are afraid of "getting caught out" it destroys millions of lives each day. It is a splitting of the self of who we think we are (self doubt) and who we really are!

"I can't let go of the past!"

An unresolved past can ruin life in the future. The mind will continually replay memories if it is trying to heal, however this can become overwhelming for today as we become unsure which reality is which!

Discover what you really want in life with the "Genie's Door" technique!

In less than 20 minutes you can cut through the noise of your mind and gain clarity of direction! This technique will open up powerful motivation and confidence showing you "what you really want" in your heart and life!

Get The User Guide to Your Mind, Put it Into Action and Get Results Today!

With highly practical strategies and techniques tested by ten's of thousands of people, the result speak for themselves. 

Allow yourself to be guided to live your true confident self step by step with somebody who has 'been there'!  

"Helped me grow to a whole new level"

The first thing I would say about Paul is that he is very good at what he does! I approached the whole thing as a bit of an experiment. A former Army officer who had changed career and was happily practising as a chiropractor and I undertook the course of coaching the result was amazing and helped me grow to a whole new level!

Jim Townhill

"Amazing results in such little time"

I've had the chance to work closely with Paul Ryder and I can honestly say  his knowledge is exceptional, his ability to actually deliver amazing results for people in such little time are outstanding and if you're struggling right now.. or if you have a 'Next Level' you're reaching and striving for, Paul will sort you out.

Ben Sweet

"I am ready to take on my goal and start living!"

After several mind opening coaching sessions with Paul I now realize my true potential is more than possible. 

After working through my self-limiting beliefs I can whole-heartedly say I am ready to take on my goals and start living the life of my dreams by setting up the retreats abroad.

Tessa Smith

Unlock And Let Go of Your Past Limiting Beliefs / Experiences

Your mind is the most advanced computer on the planet, but sometimes it learns misaligned programmes from the past when it was trying to understand itself in the world. Here we update these programmes allowing you to fully live in the present!

Discover Your Residual Past Self

In life sometimes it can feel like we are 'two' people at the same time. We know we are good enough but also doubt ourselves. This is the false self and it was created from other people's judgements of you fused in by stress. 

Here we will separate your false self allowing you to be your true self in all areas of your life!

Letting go of anger and regret

When we have past trauma or challenging times, the anxiety can stay 'stuck' until resolved. However when it is 'stuck' it becomes emotionally toxic and projects onto life today. 

This process is life changing, but requires delicate steps. Though rest assured this has been tested with thousands of clients with a phenomenal results.

Build New Practical Life Skills and Communication Styles

We rarely get taught how to succeed in the world, how to communicate, how to value ourselves or how to create a fulfilling life. Here we will discover your true aims and take powerful action steps allowing you to fully immerse in the life you want!

Unlock your confident future self

If we truly want to succeed in what we want to achieve whether that is confidence, our career or our relationships, inner peace or letting go of the past. We need to use strategy.

Strategies such as how your mind puts the world together, beliefs that you have been taught and how to gain control.

Live the life you want on your terms

Working together we will find exactly what you need and make a plan to move forward at your pace and in your personal way of learning. After all this is all about you and your life.

The only limitations are the ones that you allow your mind to create.

The options to create the life you want are limitless!

I have spent nearly 30 years learning everything I can about the mind and emotional intelligence to create the most efficient way of allowing the mind to become free of the past and live in today whilst at the same time learning strategies and techniques around life skills, social conditioning and inner reflections.
All of which you can gain access to and learn in a fraction of the time so you can live you life the way you want to  

Paul Ryder

Sometimes taking the first step can feel challenging...but you will have all the support and structure you need

The biggest question I hear is what if this is the right choice and how do I know this will get results... Great question and I encourage people to ask that if they haven't! 

The training I provide will have a whole range of strategies, sometimes it will be listening, sometimes it will be educational, sometimes it will be transformative and sometimes it ill be reflective. However the key to this is it has structure. 
No matter where we are I will always be able to explain to you where we are in the process and why we are doing that exercise. I never want people to just take my word for it, I want them to know why we are doing it.

Imagine Your Ideal Future...and loving every minute of it

What you need to work on or through...It's covered!

Focus & Direction

Become Unstoppable

Watch your motivation and drive become unstoppable by discovering what you really want in your heart and gut! Embrace step by step highly practical strategies that you can put into action in minutes!

Stress & Anxiety

Enjoy Inner Peace

Enjoy a peaceful mind free from drama so you can focus on the things the you want to do. Anxiety can often be the mind playing tricks, but simply trying to ignore it will never work. Stop the anxiety and stop the stress!

Conflict resolution

Create a Win-Win

Enjoy the peace of mind knowing that you can create a win-win no matter how complicated the situation. Enjoy the feeling inside knowing that you can create that safe space for everybody, home, friends or work


Be Yourself - Express Yourself

Allow the authentic you to come through in all occasions feeling that deep sense of satisfaction. Watch as you naturally take on new challenges you once found daunting or avoided as your life grows to new heights! 


Be Your True Self And Be Seen

Whether friendships or romantic relationships...embrace the true depth of connection and be seen for who you truly are with your own tribe! Discover depth of yourself you never knew through the connection of others!

Letting go of the past

Dealing With Challenges

The past can sometimes feel a daunting place to visit, but only if it is like a dark room. Together we can turn on the light to past traumas or stress and all your mind to be free of the weight of old...permanently! 


Your questions answered...

How long will it take?

A: Structure is essential! At all stages through the work you and I do you will know where about you are. We will also have a very clear outcome of the outcomes.

So although it is not always easy to predict a time frame, you will have a plan of where you are at and what needs to be done to get there. 

The more time you invest in practice the quicker and more efficient you will become at mastering your mind. Though sometimes it is not about pushing as hard as possible but taking time to reflect.

Rest assured though my aim is to keep you completely informed at every step of the way and to work at my own utmost efficiency to get you what you want!

I work on a process of education and inner reflection. You will be guided and strengthened, I am not the kind of therapist to sit staring blankly at you asking you how you feel on a continual loop.

Will it be emotionally painful?

As mentioned we work together with education and inner reflection. The education will strengthen your mind to make facing anxieties easier and more efficient. 

Anxieties are negative pre-projections of the future which are trapped inside a deep part of your mind tricking you into thinking they are real today...but often they are ghosts of the past. 

When facing these anxieties, sometimes it can bring up emotional discomfort, but I am with you every step of the way, walking in to a cave with you and supporting you until the anxiety vanishes and you come back out. 

Any pain you go through...I will be by your side guiding you on how to move beyond it. 

The reason that some styles of therapy have a reputation for it being immensely painful where it is just a full session of tears and sorrow is because in that setting, the person is expected to resold all their own pain. This is inefficient! If pain comes up, we work together to get through it smoothly and efficiently allowing you to embrace the lesson and become stronger in your future. 

What if I get stuck?

Given that I have been through this entire process myself and know fully how it can feel from taking that first step, trusting somebody and maybe not fully knowing how it will unfold...again my word to you is that I will be there with you every step of the way! 

Your trust in me is something that I hold as one of the greatest gifts that anybody can ever offer and I will respect that in every way. 

Our work will have many options that you can tap into as you choose. So if you find yourself feeling stuck it is important we discuss it. 

A key for a lock
You are unique and that is how I see you. It is for me to understand your unique way of seeing the world and then to offer you techniques and strategies based on your way of seeing the world...not some off the shelf technique.

So again if you feel stuck, we test and try different techniques until we find the one which is most effective for you and your style. 

Is it just positive thinking?

Although positive thinking has its place, this is definitely what we rely upon to get you results. 

We will be looking at the deep inner workings of your mind and letting go of any blockages that are causing you anxieties which hold you back. 

The one to one sessions are a full on education system based on my own 30 years of research and working through my own trauma from childhood. 

The sessions are about getting results permanently, not just positive thinking to cover up self doubt or insecurity. 

What is covered in the complimentary session?

The complimentary session is an opportunity for you and I to speak and gain rapport. During this time we will be going through a series of questions to discover what it is that you want to achieve in the future. However the session is not to provide solutions to the situation you may be facing. 

The session has a set structure and at the end I will provide you with a structure that to the best of my knowledge will support you in future sessions. If this feels what you are looking for then we will continue future sessions.

The 5 year mirror this!

Imagine the future you want to have...get a really clear image in your mind of living that way
Then do this exercise...

Where will you be in 5 years?

The 5 year mirror exercise is very powerful in projecting into your mind where you will end up if you do or do not take action on the things that you want to achieve. 

Make sure you do this, it can be extremely motivating to see the difference in your potential future life!

If you did...

Imagine looking at your reflection in a mirror and looking back over 5 years and how you took consistent steps forwards to reaching your goal.

Imagine the life that you will have if you had done this...where would you be?

If you didn't...

Imagine looking at your reflection in a mirror and looking back over 5 years. Now imagine that you only made excuses and didn't take action .

Imagine the life that you will have if you had done this...where would you be?

Take Action!
Which plan is best for you?

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  • 5 x 60 Minute Course $450 (5 week expiry)
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  • 10 x 60 Minute Course $800 (10 week expiry)
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